Would your team choose you again if they had the choice?
It’s a question worth sitting with. Because your team will remember your leadership through the moments they experienced with you: How you responded under pressure Whether you listened when it mattered How safe it felt to bring you bad news Whether they felt trusted or monitored Most leaders start with the best intentions. They want a team that feels energised, empowered and able to grow. But changing demands distort even the strongest intentions. The work accelerates. Capacity tightens. You step in to take the slack because it feels responsible. You do rather than delegate. You protect rather than stretch. And the strain shows in small, human ways. Your tone tightens. Patience shortens. Decisions speed up. The space for listening narrows. Without meaning to, you create a different experience. People feel underused. Less trusted. Less capable. Confidence dips. Development stalls. The team hesitates to bring you issues, conscious of adding pressure. The dynamic spirals. I’ve seen this play out many times in teams I’ve led and in leaders I’ve worked alongside. The turning point often comes when a leader pauses long enough to take stock, finds their way back to the leader their team knows, and focuses on rebuilding the relationship with their team. Taking time out with the team creates the space to be honest about what’s happening, reset expectations together, and start re‑establishing trust. Teams are far more forgiving than we think. When you acknowledge the impact of your actions, they meet you with understanding. Teams will choose to back you again if they believe one thing is real: that you are genuinely trying to act in their best interests. Not perfectly. Not flawlessly. But consistently, honestly, and with the courage to reset when things slip. That’s what people follow. That’s what they remember. That’s what earns you another chance. If this is something you’re exploring for yourself, I’m always happy to talk.
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